Desecration of The Feminine: The Horrors of the Whore

Astrologically, the sun is currently in the sign of Scorpio and thus, ‘tis the season for shadowork! Scorpio is all about the underworld and the journey of death and rebirth, along with seeing the shadows along the way.

As such, I woke up this morning with an immense download - reflecting on the ways that the feminine has been extracted and exploited. This is both the female body, mind, and spirit within all of us humans, as well as the ecological and environmental space we are currently occupying.

The word, “whore” came to mind and when we as individuals and a collective are not living in reverence with the sacred, it becomes a horror. When we take, manipulate, and control without being in reciprocity or appreciation, a breakdown starts to happen. The word, “whore,” specifically, has the etymology of “wh” which is also the start of words like “who, what, where, when, why, and whole.” These words, to me, give the information of what makes up our unique human selves. I find it interesting that “horror, how, honor, honest, holistic, and holy” all start with “ho” and this to me, represents relationship with God. So, when we are not whole or connected to the ingredients that make up our worthiness as a person, we may find ourselves in a shadowy place, not connected to God or the divine feminine, and thus, whoring it up.

It makes sense - our current climate does not teach us this. We do not have leaders who are showing us the way. So, I ask that if you’re relating to this, you can access forgiveness and self-compassion. I know I’ve needed to receive that in myself, so if you’re struggling with facing your shadows, know that you’ve come to a place that is extending that out to you, too. You have permission to look at your shadows and receive grace while you sort through your steps towards moving with greater integrity.

In sacred feminine psycho-spiritual literature, there are 7 main archetypes. They are The Maiden, The Mother, The Queen, The Huntress, The Mystic, The Sage, and The Lover. I believe that the shadow we’re discussing, mainly comes from an imbalance of The Lover. In healthy relationship with the sacred feminine, The Lover embodies sensuality, creativity, pleasure, and passion. When not in wellness, the shadow of The Lover can struggle with addiction, unworthiness, and fear of rejection. These shadows ultimately point to a scarcity or lack belief, of trust and safety within self and God. The power of the feminine is that she is unconditionally loving and so, even in the shadows, there is love and possibility for transmutation. We can come back into wholeness and recalibrate our human so that there is a realignment with our divinity, too.

My prayer is that whatever shadows we may be navigating, that there is as much integrity, healing, grace, and redemption in the path forward.

Cyclical Living

For years, I have been attempting to live according to my menstrual cycle. I read a book called, In The Flo by Alisa Vitti, which changed my entire outlook on my period. After a decade of being on birth control with virtually no period or education about my menstrual cycle, I was completely clueless and disconnected from my body. The book helped me understand that the female body is so intelligent and when women operate according to the 4 phases of the cycle, we are in greater synchronization with our mind, body, and spirit. Getting in flow with our inner nature is then what helps to align with the outer movement of life. This then ripples out and thus, inspires others and creates change - for all of humanity. It also creates harmony, resonance, and reverence with the physical environment we are all inhabiting as this planet, Mother Earth herself, is by nature, a feminine body and cyclical being who is continuously holding us all. 

Unfortunately, our current society does not operate on or honor the feminine rhythm. Our civilization functions on a masculine, linear trajectory. For thousands of years now, we have been on a 24-hour clock, not a 28-32 day cycle. As a result, many women have suffered developing psychological, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual issues. While this affects women directly, it also impacts men greatly. When women are not well, the rest of the world cannot be well as women are, biologically and anatomically, life givers. When they are shut down and their blood is not flowing as it’s meant to, there is a problem. It is vital, to our species, that women can live in rhythm with their cycle so that we can continue to not only maintain life, but optimize it as well. 

It is my mission to birth a well world and I am aware that it starts with me. I must be the change I want to see. So, slowly and surely, I am doing so. It is an immense undertaking as I am the one to architect exactly what it looks like in a culture that does not promote and even, rejects this. As I mentioned, I have been attempting to do this for years. It has not been easy and it takes a conscious, outer environment to receive and honor this way of being. And yet, on the mark of this month’s bleed, I claim that this is the true start of my cyclical living. 

Practically, I’ve designed a work schedule that creates spaciousness so that I can honor my natural rhythm, eat nutritious foods and drinks, and exercise and socialize according to the phases of my cycle. Energetically, it means that I uphold devotion to this sacred way of being. 

I am doing this for myself, the women alongside of me now, and for all women coming after me, so that they have it easier. When women are well, all are well.